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Many experts recommend continuing to use diapers or pull-ups at night during potty training. Nighttime potty training can come later, as many children cannot stay dry all night until around age 5. Key points:
- It is normal for children to continue needing diapers at night during potty training. Bladder control at night develops later.
- Stopping nighttime diapers too early can lead to undue stress, bedwetting, and lack of sleep for both parent and child.
- There are things parents can try to encourage nighttime dryness, but not at the expense of sleep and low stress.
- It is okay to go at your child’s pace and wait until they show signs of nighttime readiness before pushing night training.
Is it normal to still use diapers at night during potty training?
Yes, it is completely normal and developmentally appropriate for children to continue wearing diapers or pull-ups at night during the potty training process. Here’s why:
- Nighttime bladder control develops later than daytime control. Many kids aren’t biologically ready to stay dry all night until around age 5.
- Potty training is a major developmental milestone. Experts recommend focusing on daytime training first before attempting nighttime dryness.
- Staying dry at night requires the body to produce a hormone that limits urine production. Younger children don’t make enough of this hormone.
- Waking at night to use the potty can be disruptive to a child’s sleep. Sleep is very important for healthy development.
In fact, most pediatricians and potty training specialists advise against pushing nighttime dryness too early. Doing so can cause undue stress, anxiety, and sleep problems for both parent and child.
The bottom line is: continuing with nighttime diapers during potty training is perfectly normal and not necessarily a sign that anything is “wrong.” With daytime accidents, additional potty training strategies may help. With night accidents, time and developmental readiness are key.
Developmental factors in nighttime dryness
To understand why nighttime potty training comes later, it helps to understand what’s happening developmentally. Here are some key points:
- Bladder capacity grows as children get older. Young bladders can only hold small amounts of urine overnight.
- The body produces less urine at night due to a hormone called vasopressin. Young children don’t make enough vasopressin to limit urine production.
- Waking up to use the bathroom requires mature bladder control and arousal mechanisms. These don’t develop until around age 5.
- Some kids may achieve nighttime dryness earlier, while others may take longer. There is a wide range of normal.
In the toddler and preschool years, the body is simply not yet equipped physically or biologically to stay dry all night. Forcing this milestone too early is unlikely to be successful and will only cause stress.
Don’t rush nighttime potty training
Here are some signs that it may be too early to push nighttime potty independence:
- Your child is fully potty trained during the day but still wakes up most mornings with a very wet diaper.
- You’ve had several failed attempts at night training with lots of accidents.
- Your child is under 5 years old.
- Your child starts having daytime accidents when you try night training.
- You find yourself getting frustrated and engaged in power struggles over nighttime accidents.
If this sounds familiar, go easy on both yourself and your child. Go back to diapers at night and revisit night training in a few months when your little one shows more signs of readiness.
Signs your child may be ready for nighttime potty training
While every child is different, there are some signs that indicate your little one may be ready to start transitioning out of overnight diapers:
- Waking up in the morning with a dry diaper, or staying dry for naps.
- Needing to pee at night and calling out or coming to your room.
- Showing interest in using the potty at night or wanting to wear underwear to bed.
- Having consistent dry periods of over 4 hours during the day.
- Being over 5 years old. Many kids aren’t ready until closer to age 6 or 7.
Pay close attention to your child’s cues. If they seem unwilling, uninterested, or not bothered by wet diapers, they likely need more time before initiating night training.
Other considerations before night training
Make sure your child is showing overall daytime potty readiness. Accidents during the day should be minimal. Experts don’t recommend starting night training if:
- Your child is still having frequent daytime accidents.
- Daytime potty training was overly stressful or negative.
- Your child is going through other transitions like a new sibling or school.
- Night training would cause lost sleep or extreme disruption to the family.
It’s also best to avoid putting too much pressure or shame on accidents. Your child can’t fully control them. Stay positive, reassure your little one, and be prepared to return to diapers if needed.
How to approach nighttime potty training
When you and your child show signs of night training readiness, you can start the process. However, stay flexible and follow your child’s lead:
Make weekday mornings low-pressure
On mornings without rushed school prep, let your child wake up, get dressed, and look in their diaper to see if it’s wet. Praise dry mornings! Say something like, “Your diaper is dry! Your body is learning how to stay dry all night.”
Suggest using the potty before bed
In a casual way, mention to your child, “If you want to try using the potty right before bed, you can! That might help your body stay dry all night.” Don’t require it if your child resists.
Try ditching diapers for underwear or pull-ups
On low-pressure weekends or holidays, ask if your child wants to wear underwear or pull-ups to bed instead of a diaper. Say they can change back into a diaper if they stay wet. Going without diapers helps kids recognize the feeling of a full bladder.
Use nighttime wetting alarms if appropriate
For older children who want help staying dry, bedwetting alarms can be effective. These alert the child when they start urinating so they can stop and finish in the toilet. Talk to your child’s doctor if interested.
Avoid excessive fluids before bedtime
Limiting fluid intake in the 1-2 hours before bed can help minimize wet nights. But don’t restrict water during the day, as proper hydration is important.
Wake your child to pee once a night
If your child sleeps deeply, try waking them once during the night to preemptively use the potty. Pick a consistent time when you’re often already up, like when brushing your teeth.
Use waterproof mattress covers temporarily
Protect your mattress during this transitional time. Absorbent pads under the sheet also help your child feel comfortable if they do have an accident at night.
Emphasize that nighttime accidents are okay
Make sure your child knows that occasional night wetting is normal and not their fault. Stay relaxed, reassuring, and positive when accidents happen to prevent shame or resistance.
What not to do when night training
Just as important as the right strategies are some things to avoid when working on night dryness:
- Don’t force training before your child shows readiness.
- Don’t take away diapers cold turkey or as a punishment.
- Don’t shame, scold, or punish for nighttime accidents.
- Don’t withhold liquids during the day or restrict drinking after dinner.
- Don’t pressure your child to stay up late or wake them frequently to pee.
- Don’t compare your child’s progress to that of siblings or friends.
Night training should never disrupt sleep, cause distress, or make your child feel badly about themselves. Go at their pace, stay relaxed, and consider backing off if it’s not working.
When to seek help for nighttime wetting
While the timeline varies, most children will achieve nighttime dryness between ages 5 and 7. After age 7, bedwetting becomes less common. If accidents are frequent and causing distress after age 7-8, it’s worth talking to your pediatrician.
Your doctor can check for underlying issues like:
- Urinary tract infections
- Diabetes
- Sleep apnea
- Constipation
- Developmental delays
- Small bladder size
- Stress or anxiety
They may be able to offer medication, bladder retraining exercises, or alarms to help address bedwetting. Look for potential social and emotional impacts too like low self-esteem.
With help from the doctor, most children can resolve bedwetting or at least manage it until natural developmental readiness kicks in.
How to clean up nighttime accidents
No matter what precautions you take, accidents are likely during night training. Make clean-up as easy and low-key as possible:
- Use mattress covers and absorbent pads to protect the bed.
- Keep multiple sheet sets on hand so you can quickly change the bedding.
- Have your child help with laundry and remake the bed together.
- Use an enzymatic cleaner, vinegar, or bleach to fully remove urine from mattresses.
- Remain calm and reassuring if your child feels embarrassed or ashamed.
Having a game plan makes middle-of-the-night cleanup much smoother. And remember – tell your child that accidents are just a normal part of learning and growing up!
When can you expect your child to be fully night trained?
Every child achieves night dryness in their own time. However, experts offer these general night training age guidelines:
- 75% of children are night trained by age 5
- 90% of children are night trained by age 6
- 99% of children are night trained by age 7
Some kids won’t stay dry every night until 8 or 9 years old – and that’s still considered well within the range of normal development. Try not to compare your child’s progress to these averages too strictly.
Focus on supporting your child’s needs with patience and compassion. In time, their mind and body will develop the skills to stay dry overnight.
Conclusion
Being potty trained overnight is a more complex process than daytime potty skills. It requires developmental readiness that comes later than toilet independence during wake time hours.
It is perfectly normal and appropriate to continue using diapers or pull-ups at night as you work on potty training during the day. Pushing too hard too young almost always backfires.
Look for signs your child is moving toward nighttime readiness like waking up dry. Then use gentle, supportive techniques to help them learn nighttime bladder control at their own pace.
With your encouragement and their developmental progress, they will get there. Avoid frustration, anxiety and shame, and make the process as peaceful as possible for both of you.